How My Children Saved My Business

I know you must be wondering how that could be the case. It’s true, though. They saved my business!

I’m an author, but I’m also an entrepreneur.  If you’ve followed me a while you’ve heard me mention my business, The Jewelry Lady.  I’ve owned this retail store (initially online & now a storefront as well) for over 5 years.  I love it! I mean, what woman doesn’t love jewelry, right?  But there were many times that I thought about throwing in the towel because I’d come to the end of myself . But countless times my children were there with little nuggets that helped get me out of my funk.

Let’s start with the youngest.  She’s 8.  While on vacation, we came across a crafter called My Froggy Stuff (I think I told you guys about them before.  If not, here’s their YouTube channel-they have 2)

That child me gluing, sewing, taping, brainstorming & drawing til the cows came home!  Let’s just say she was the reason I redesigned my store many, many times to keep it interesting.  100_4119100_6012




She’s also the reason that her dolls now have a jewelry store & 5 doll houses & a sweet shop (more to come I’m sure)!  And did I mention she asked, “Mommy, can I be The Jewelry Lady once you retire?”  Priceless.

On to my middle child, age 10.  He caught the YouTube bug way before his sister.  His fetish? Lego & dinosaurs!  He couldn’t get enough.  He even used his dad’s camera so much that well, yeah.  He broke it.  I haven’t told my husband yet.  I’ll just have to replace it.  But if I remember correctly, there are over 900 pictures that came out into a 6-part Lego video!  Talk about creativity & being driven!  He’s the reason I started doing videos & kept getting back on the horse when I felt like giving up on ideas.

Finally, the oldest. He’s my heart. There were many occasions when someone shredded a concept, dream or 2-3 day effort for no good reason. He was there with insight, perception & encouragement.  He also helped me understand when to let some people go and pray for their hearts.  Everyone can’t come with you!  I’m just in love with his peaceful ways & his strength.  He reminds me so much of my husband.  Here’s his current “thing”.

So, that’s it.  That’s a few ways that my children saved my business.  Oh yeah, the biggest way they helped?  They MAKE me play!  They remind me when I’ve worked too hard and need to take a movie/popcorn/hotchcolate/dolly/lego/wrestling/cartoon break.  They’re the best!  There are times that I think they manage me more than I manage them, but hey, as long as they’re doing a good job, why argue?

I hope you enjoyed my post. If you want to check out my store, stop by or shop online!

wpid-untitled6The Jewelry Lady
2307 W Cone Blvd
Suite 112
Greensboro, NC 27408
Tuesdays & Thursday, 5p-7p
Saturdays 11a-2p

Until next time, try not to kill your kids before they turn 18!

New Events! Self-Publishing, Social Media & Small Business Info Session

Good morning!!!  I wanted to give you a heads up about 2 events I have coming up this weekend.  I know, I know, it’s short notice.  But let me be honest-this event wasn’t for everyone.  This is a session for those I absolutely knew were in it to win it.  And let’s be honest, sometimes things must be done a little differently the first go round.

So what am I getting at?

1.  My first info session!  I’ll be dishing out all my secrets of how I wrote, published & promoted my book while still working, having a full-time family, running a small business & STILL WRITING MORE BOOKS!  Yes!  It can be done & you can do it if you are 2 things:  serious and flexible.

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2.  My next speaking engagement!  (More about that later)

The sessions are this Friday, June 20th from 6p-7p & 7p-8p.  My 6p-7p slot is full & there are 5 spots left in the 7p-8p.  Here are topics we’ll cover:

How to find time to write

How to self-publish for less than $50 (cheap, right?!)

How to get your book on Amazon, in bookstores, libraries, colleges & more!

How to write your book FAST without keying one stroke!

How to get your book cover, editing, proofreading & more done for $10 or less!

How to avoid stockpiling your books!

Do you need a license for your business?  Not always!

Where to go to get a license for your small business

Taxes and your books or business

Social media for your books & business

How to REALLY only spend 30 minutes a day on your business & THRIVE!

& so much more!

I’ll have a small segment on all these topics & you’ll walk away with more than enough ammo to start, continue or take your project to the next level!  For the second half, there will be a Q&A session where I’ll answer YOUR questions.

If you’d like to attend, email me at  You CANNOT MISS THIS SESSION!

Ok, on to the next item:  I’m speaking at the S.W.A.G. (Standing with all Girls & Guys) Anti-Bullying event on this Saturday! 10312411_749673851750748_2917854560187726514_n I’ll be speaking with parents about topics such as:

How to spot if your child is suffering from bullying

How to detect if your child is bullying others

How to handle teachers, principals & the school board concerning your child being bullied

When to take things further & when to let things work themselves out

What to teach your child concerning bullying

How to deal with your emotions in check when talking with your child about bullying

This is a partial list, but I am very excited about the opportunity to speak with parents about this topic.  Please visit or for more information or to register for this event!

So check me out at these events!

Until next time,

Tonya 😉


Shout Out to the UK!!

I want to say thanks to all of those who have recently been purchasing my book in the UK! I’m overwhelmed with the warm reception I’ve received. I hope that the 100+ tips I’ve included help you NOT to kill your kids! 😉


In response to the rising interest in this book, I’m going to schedule a book signing in Barnes & Noble. If you’d like to come check it out, just let me know! You can also purchase the book online or in their store. If there’s no Barnes & Noble in your area, you can get a print or electronic copy from, keyword Tonya Joyner.

Thanks again for all the warm wishes, prayers & encouragement!




Hi again!  I just HAVE to share my first review of my latest book.  It’s OUTSTANDING!  I have received reviews before & I’m so grateful when readers share their thoughts.  But this review absolutely takes the cake!  Ok, enough of my gushing, here it is!!!

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Awesome, huh?  So now grab your copy!  It’s a perfect Christmas gift that’ll help parents start the year off with a whole new outlook on parenting.

Click here to order.

If you’d like more info on how to self publish, I’m available to answer your questions!  Find out how I wrote & published my books in less than 90 days!

Thanks & I hope you enjoy my book!


Stressed About the Holidays? Try these tips from “How NOT to Kill Your Kids Before They Turn 18”!

scaredThe holidays can be something else!  Planning, cooking, cleaning, parenting!  Everything tries to intensify & become overwhelming.  But it doesn’t have to be that way!  Try these tips to go from distressed to de-stressed!

I.  Family calendar taking a beating?  Yeah, this time of year can be stressful because it seems like everyone is putting everything within the same 2 weeks!  Well, here are some tips from my book:

“Whether paper, dry erase, or electronic, having a family calendar can alleviate a lot of confusionplanner and stress.  Logging tasks, homework, bills, grocery lists, meals and date nights keeps them in a place where the entire family has access.  It’s hard to follow an unwritten plan.

And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.  Habakkuk 2:2 King James Version (KJV)

So when you and your family come up with a plan, keep it simple, straightforward and easy to follow!  You can use different colors for different types of events (work, church, school, community, sports) or for the person they correspond to (Mom, Dad, kids, pets).  This will reveal the entire family schedule, but still keep it organized according to each person.  My husband and I decided from here on out we’ll have the same brand of phone so that we can sync everything.  It’s also handy if I have to run out and my battery is low.  He’ll switch with me and let his charge or vice versa.  If your kids have phones, you can sync with them, too.  Keep all calendars in sync and it’ll be smoother sailing when unexpected events pop up. “


II.  Another stress trigger?  Arts & crafts!  As much as I LOVE crafting with the kids, they don’t like to clean up as much as I like them to.  So, I had to make an area for them to get crafty without it getting crazy!  Here’s some ideas from my book:

Having an area mandated for all things artsy and craftsy keeps the kids focused and allows confettiall potential messes to be contained in a specific area.  Be sure it’s an area that is “oops” resistant (no carpet, dent resistant, glue and glitter tolerant).  It may help for it to be near a window.  Sometimes fumes from spray glue, paint and cleaners will need to be ventilated.  If      you’ve dedicated an entire room or part of a room, maybe hang or frame their art there for display.  That way there’s less to store.  We let the kids hang their art in their room so we don’t have so much to kids artstore.  My daughter is currently in the “making things for Mommy” (constantly) stage, so I got a notebook filled with clear sleeves and started collecting her artwork.  This will be neatly stored in the mementos area of the hall closet or the family room bookshelf for browsing.  The boys are a bit different.  The middle one is 8 and the oldest is 12, so they’re into building 3D things.  I can just take pics with my phone and put them on my flash drive.”

So, I hope I’ve helped you with some ideas on how to decrease the stress during the holiday season.  If you’d like to see about 98 more tips & ideas on how NOT to kill your kids, pick up my book on!  Click below to order your print or electronic copy or stop by my book signing this Friday night from 5-6:30 at Deep Roots Market in Greensboro, NC.



Meet the Author!! Dec. 6 from 5-6:30 at Deep Roots Market

In the Greensboro area?  YOU’RE INVITED!

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To order your copy today on Amazon, click the picture above.

If you’d like to reserve an autographed copy, reply below, use my contact page or email me at  See you there!

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INCREDIBLE Announcement!

My book is now available in print & as an ebook!  I’m so excited !!!!  A5

I want to say thank you for hanging in there with me.  I have some of the best people in the world to work with & once again the team has produced something GREAT!  So, grab a copy for you and a friend.  It’s a great gift for parents & parents-to-be!  To order, just click here or if you have an Amazon account click “Amazon”.  You can also get a snippet of what you’ll get before you buy!  I hope you enjoy it.  Leave me some comments (& a 5 star rating),  please!

What is the book about?  Here’s a preview:

Raising kids isn’t always easy. Sometimes you need help-FAST! This book is for parents who want new ways to help navigate the path from raising children to releasing adults. If you’re dealing with bad behavior, communication issues or just the general climate or daily functionality of your house, this book is for you!

Also, a bonus announcement: 

I’ve been nominated for the 2013 Sweethearts of the Triad!  This organization highlights local business owners who serve their community as well as their customers.  I am so honored to be nominated!  Please click below to vote for me.  Thanks!!!

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How to Steal Time to Write (and an update on my new book)

Just an update:  I’ve been working on this book (Are We There Yet?  How NOT to Kill Your Kids Before They Turn 18) for about a month & I’ve come across some really interesting requests!  I’ve met moms of boys who want odor removing advice, moms with eye-rolling kids who want advice & parents who just want me to hurry up & get this book out!

One of the questions I get the most is when do I have time to write?  Well, it’s not always a constant thing.  It can be 10 minutes here, 30 minutes there & sometimes one or two hours.  The biggest thing I’ve discovered is how to snatch time.  It may mean dictating to my cell phone (I use an app called ColorNote to take down & email material for the book) as I’m waiting between appointments, putting a few paragraphs down while the kids are napping or between household chores.  It can be challenging sometimes, but it’s more than worth it.

If you’d like to get my first book, you can find it here as well as on and on Kindle.UntitledSo what are your questions about how to find times to write as a mom?  Do you have any tips you’d like to shout from the rooftops?

Writers: Neck Sore? Try These Methods of “Writing”

The keyboard can be killer!  Even though I can type really, really fast (I used to key mail for USPS-need I say more?), sometimes my neck just screams at me to take a break.  The problem?  The words are still coming & I need to get them down!  My solution?  Whip out my handy dandy cell phone!  I have an app named ColorNote which I use for a ton of things (grocery lists, reminders, random thoughts) but most importantly, writing books.  ColorNote allows me to use my speakerphone to compose a note to myself & I can email it, save it, put a timed alarm on it, etc.  You can even color code them (green for groceries, red for writing, blue for blogs) to keep it all organized.  Now, I could also use the speakerphone to compose an email & send it to myself, but my phone takes many more button pushes to write an email than the 3 taps required to start a new note.  ColorNote also auto-saves so if you back out accidentally, it’ll be there when you go back!  This app has been a life saver & a neck saver!  It is on the android system & I’m sure they have something comparable for the iphone, ipad, etc.  Now if you already knew this, don’t dog me out.  Just give me a pat on the back for catching up to the rest of the technologically savvy world!!  What cool app or other item have you discovered that really makes your life easier?

Thanks for listening & happy writing!