Your mindset is fuel. It can propel you to greatness or into a ditch. Think about it. When you’re determined to do a thing, what makes you go through with it? Your mindset. Now where you end up, that’s a completely different thing. But for now, let’s look at getting a hold of your mindset and using it to move in a positive direction.
When you receive an opportunity, how do you react? Here lately, I’ve started noticing my inward feelings and my outward actions. I’ll hear about an opportunity and my mind quickly goes to work, rolling it over, examining it like a jewel, assessing its value, looking for flaws and the significance of those flaws. Sometimes the opportunity is put back on the shelf, others it’s snatched up because of its potential. But that’s just how I see it.
So here’s the dilemma: if you can only see negative at the moment (that’s easy for me at the time because I’ll be honest, I’m in the midst of a transition so there are things that try to bring me to a place of frustration. So I have to “check myself” often) you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. You are using your fuel (mindset) to go to a place you really don’t want to be. If you don’t want to end up with negative results, why use your fuel to go there?
Ok, am I sounding crazy? Feel free to tell me. I’ll just cut to the chase. Here’s some things that must stop for you to see positive change in your life:
Talking yourself out of success
When a situation arises, focus on the positive. Even if it looks like failure, stay focused. Even if things don’t work out, what did you learn? Who did you meet? Who did you help? Who helped you? What information did you gain through the process? Be sure to focus on those things. Learning is never failure unless you don’t use that info for later. What we think of as failure is actually information to put in our toolbox to keep going.
Sometimes you just need to rework an idea or use different methods to get there. Having a longevity mindset (think years instead of days, generations instead of a few years) can change everything and put you in a place of legacy instead of being a blip on the screen.
Cheer yourself on. Go back to the initial place of inspiration. What prompted you to try in the first place? Even if you have to change the plan to reach the goal, keep trying! Believe!!!
Don’t give up before you even begin! Don’t give up when you start! Don’t give up when you’re halfway there! Don’t give up when you’re so close to the end! Don’t forget to celebrate your accomplishments along the way and at the end of the process!!!
“I don’t __________” (have the money, know how, have the connections, have the time, have the energy, know who to ask, know where to go, know what to do, have what it takes). You didn’t know the ins and outs of sitting up, but you do it. You didn’t know how to roll over or crawl as a baby, but you know how now. The point is, you have a ton of potential, resources and support that you just need to tap into. Make the effort, not excuses. God made Google for a reason. Get to Googling!
Being a slacker
I can’t STAND laziness! I can’t. Don’t get me wrong, there are areas that I’m just trifling with. Thank GOD for my husband. He’s truly my match and my other half. If he didn’t do what he does, this house would be in a shambles. I don’t do the majority of the dishes or vacuuming. I don’t. I ABSOLUTELY HATE doing dishes and vacuuming. When I was a kid, those were my 2 chores and I had to do them over and over until they were perfect. I mean the lines had to be a certain way in the carpet or I had to do it all over. Now THAT’S how you make a kid hate something for life. But I digress. I hate doing it, but I still help. I will go get the replacement bags, put the vacuum away, make sure the kids vacuum their rooms and even though I really don’t like it, I suck it up and vacuum. I do those stupid dishes even though I hate it. Thankfully, there are parts my husband hates doing that doesn’t really bother me. I play my part and suck it up when I have to do it all alone. The relationship and the functioning of the household are more important than my feelings. Once I saw that, I had a different mindset about it.
Allowing discouragement to stop you
Man, look. A lot of things take time. Sometimes you get what you want quickly and wonder what in the world you were thinking asking for it in the first place. Life is interesting that way. Take it all in stride. One thing that truly helps is taking the focus off of yourself. What can you do to help those around you? Be there for someone else. While your back is turned helping others, the Lord will help you!
I really want you to have a life you enjoy. I didn’t say have the perfect life (like that even exists-we have no idea what we really need). But really sit back and look at where you are and where you could be. You can take that statement both ways. If you’re happy where you are, be grateful! Express it to those who are the reason for that happiness! If you’re not happy, look at where you could be and make plans to get there.
Nothing is stopping you but you. YOUR mindset.
Love & blessings!