Sometimes You Have to Stop to Move Forward

I’ve hit a wall. A wall of “too much”. Too much doing. Too much to do in too many places. I’m sure you’ve been there before.

I’ve been asking God for things and then trying to make my own way to them. I’ve been completely out of character. I’ve rushed instead of resting. I’ve moved instead of meditating. I’ve added instead of subtracting. I’ve worried instead of worshiping. Enough is enough. It’s time to stop. Just stop.

Case in point. I was reviewing my husband’s online store data and found that he had the largest number of visitors ever this past Saturday. So I told him to go find out what he did so we can replicate it. I’m thinking it’s one of these fantastic promos we’ve been agonizing, strategizing, planning and toiling over. Nope. Maybe it was a sale announcement What did he do? Sent one email. It was nothing major, nothing fantastic, nothing overly involved or time consuming. It didn’t even take 10 minutes to create, approve & send it.

However, all of this other drama we put ourselves through came to NOTHING. NOTHING. NOT A THING! So why did we do it? Yeah, I don’t know either. I guess we thought it would take all that. Well, lesson learned. We’re cutting the fluff. It’s time to dial it back in a major way and make first things first again.

What’s the first thing? God. Prayer. Resting in His presence. Letting Him be Abba at all times. Being moved by an unction, not an inspiration. When you are moved by the bells and whistles, they begin to drive you, drain you. Keep it simple. Get back to basics. Get back to rest. Watch God move. Tell someone about it. Live a peaceful life again.

That’s all, guys. I love you! God’s peace be in you & have a great day!


Business Tip of the Day: Does PayPal REALLY Let You Have Your Customer’s Contact Information?

Hi guys!

Just a little heads up for those of you who use the mobile card/chip readers for their business. I’ve found that even though you’re given the impression that PayPal lets you get your customer’s info after you collect it, it’s not true. If you have PayPal, you may notice that when you’re using the PayPal Here app, it gives you the option to input the customer’s information. So you think you’d be able to reference it later, right? Nope!  I’ve been searching FOR YEARS for an answer and they haven’t said anything since early this year.  Their response to all the requests to access the information that the business owner inserts hoping to access later?  Thanks, but we haven’t done anything about it yet.  They’ve been saying that since at least 2011…

Well, I haven’t found a feasible workaround besides using another company. So check out this video to see if this solution will work for you. Oh, and as always (maybe this will change in the future) this post was not sponsored by anyone. These are all my own experiences and opinions.  See ya next time!


Water Only Clarifying & Deep Conditioning 

Hey y’all!

I know some of you are wondering, what in the world happened to the hair updates? Well, life happened. I started back to my regular job and so my hair has been taking a beating. It’s been a little dry and unruly, so it just dawned on me that I needed to do a clarify and deep conditioning.

I clarify with an acv rinse and use banana baby food for a deep condition. My acv rinse is clarified water (from my handheld filtered shower head) and acv (the filtered or unfiltered version).  I use banana baby food because my hair LOVES it!  See?

Yeah, when you clarify, you have to add the moisture back in. See how adorable the bottom girl is? That is how the rest of my hair will look once I finish this deep conditioning treatment. Otherwise… let’s just say it is literally not pretty. You see that puffy piece? I left it out to demonstrate how critical this step is. This is what it looks like when you clarify but don’t put the moisture back in. But I had a trick for that little piece of hair.

I called it with a little bit of olive oil and voila! No more angry hair!  

Next, I rinse out the banana THOROUGHLY with really warm water.   Oh yeah, NEVER let it dry on your hair!  It’ll take an additional 1-3 rinses to get it out if you do.  Finally, I’ll  do a cold rinse to close the cuticle.  

After all this, my hair may still not be hydrated enough  (I’ve been so bad to it lately), so I may need to do the baggy or greenhouse method.  We’ll just have to wait and see! 

Well, this is how it turned out more or less.  I had to deliver an order, so I put on a headband and headed out the door! 

 The best thing is, it’ll be prestretched in case I decide to do twists, Bantus or a tuck and pin.

Until next time, try NOT to kill your kids before they turn 18!


Tonya E. Joyner is a wife, mother of three, speaker, author, educator, trainer and entrepreneur.  Tonya  believes that laughter is good medicine.  She inserts a dose of humor into her delivery to ensure that education is not torture for the teacher or the learner!   Look for her other books on life and learning that help parents keep their sanity, their hair and their relationship with their children and God!

5 Minute Meal! No Joke!

Hey I just discovered an awesome recipe that’ll be my Fall go to crock pot meal for sure.  5 minutes of prep and 5 ingredients.   No joke!  Check it out.
What you need:

2.5lb bag of frozen chicken breasts

Poultry seasoning 

Sea Salt (2-3 tbsp)

3 Potatoes 

1 Onion 

*3 tbsp of butter/margarine (optional, but you’ll wish you did!) 

What to do:

Coat the bottom of the crock pot with poultry seasoning. Give a light dusting of sea salt to the bottom as well.  Add chicken. Chop one onion into chunks and throw in.  Chop potatoes (slices or cubes or whatever) and throw in.  Add remaining ingredients on top.  Cook for 4-10 hours in the crock pot.  

It’ll look like this:

Ok, maybe not so messy.  I got a little crazy with the poultry seasoning. Anyway, as I was literally throwing this together, I considered that I could add carrots, or swap the potatoes for rice or pasta, add a cream soup or try turkey wings, beef or pork roast instead of chicken!  Oh, it’s ON!

What would you do to jazz it up?

Word from God: Don’t get distracted!!

Good morning!

I hope you’re well. I have a video for you this morning. If you’re going through, just take a listen. I hope if helps you through your day and beyond!



It’s My First Haul, Y’all!! Rose’s/Maxway & Dollar Tree

If you’ve been looking for great deals for fall, like inexpensive 3 wick candles and glass jar candles, do not skip this post!! There are some incredible deals at Roses/Maxway and Dollar Tree! I’m about to show you my first haul y’all!

Here’s pics of what I found while at Roses.  I found the BEST smelling Red Velvet 3 wick candle and it was only $2.99, y’all!!!!  I was floored.  I would’ve gotten it, but I have a ton of candles as it is.  Oh, on a side note, if you want to elongate the life of your candles, check out this post.  You’ll be amazed!

If you find anything, let me know!  I need stuff too!!  lol

See y’all later,