Monday Mom Tip: Embrace the New

As I get more experience in this life, I’ve had to learn to embrace the new nouns.  New people, new places & new things.  Fortunately, I’m the type of person who likes the new.  My problem?  Knowing when to (& how to) let go of the old.  Recently I’ve had a big change in my life and now I am having to let go of the old and embrace the new.  But the biggest lesson?  Don’t rush & don’t settle.

road signsSometimes we want to “plug the hole” in our lives with the first thing we come across that seems like a good compliment.  But we can miss out on even better if we don’t take our time, put some real thought into it and make a decision based on what’s right not what feels right (or based on a tradition or norm).  I’ve had people try to rush me into a decision (a board of people, in fact) & even though I outwardly agreed, inwardly I was laughing.  I know better.  You can’t sell snake oil to me any more.

So when it comes time to let go, don’t feel like you are missing out, coming up short or blowing in the wind as some will tell you.  When you are a child of the King.  He has you in the palm of His hand.  Sometimes there are things to see, learn and experience before making your decision.  Take the time.  You’re worth the investment.

Take care & take care of yourself,

XO Tonya

I Need YOUR Tips! Summer Day Trips

I’m gonna be off for the summer soon (If my boss doesn’t call me in to work over the summer-wouldn’t be the first time) & I need places in NC (or near the NC/VA state line) to take my children for day trips.  I’d like for them to be fun, educational, complete veg-out spots or off the beaten path.  I’m up for anything, people!  I have no camps planned for them this year.  It’d be great, but just in case it doesn’t happen I want to be prepared.

Here are some ideas I have so far:

local arboretum
strawberry farm
Science museums
Art museums
Linville Caverns (if I decide to make that drive)
The beach (whooo!  5 hours one way)
The mountains
the pool
Grandma’s house (no brainer, since she just retired!)

So where are some great places you have been with your children?

Monday Mom Tip: Handling Adjustments

This week is gonna be something else.  It’ll be the first time in a year that I have my days off back.  Yes, A YEAR, PEOPLE!!  It’s been a year since I opened my own jewelry store (The Jewelry Lady).  Since I’m shifting my hours from 12p-2p to 5p-7p, it opens the entire day back up for me.  Instead of cramming 15 tasks into about 2 hours, I have all day!  So it’s great!  But I don’t want to fool myself.  There’s sure to be an adjustment period where things feel weird, are much different and make me wonder if it’s worth the change in the first place.  But isn’t that the case with many great changes?  It reminds me of cleaning out a closet:  it’s gonna look worse before it starts looking better, but the end result is SOOO worth it!

Here are some tips:

1.  Pace yourself.  Know your temperament and set yourself up for success, not failure.  Don’t overwhelm yourself, then beat yourself up when you don’t meet a goal that was crazy in the first place.

2.  Look back at your progress and celebrate it.  Whether it’s taking a nap, having a cookie or splurging on a major want, be sure to note the occasion with a treat.  Be good to yourself!

3.  Don’t be afraid to reach out or get an accountability partner.  Just be sure they’ll be honest with you, push you, but not condemn or abuse you.  You need a helper, not a harmer.

4.  Pray.  Then pray some more.  God is good for giving shortcuts, advice and even ways of escape.  Use them!!

5.  Be grateful.  Whether this is something you asked for, planned for (or not), be glad that change is coming.  Remember, change is often a good thing!

Finally, take deep breaths.  Don’t flip out or flake out.  Make your “to do” lists, set easy, accessible goals & pat yourself on the back from time to time.  You can do it!

So if you’re going through a big adjustment, be sure to encourage yourself in the process.  Speak life and know that God works all things together for them that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.  It may look/feel/sound crazy now, but the process is worth the success!

Have a great day!


Rest and You’ll See!

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Worn?  Frazzled?  Squirrely even?  Well just stop.  Be still and do nothing.  Yep.  Do the exact opposite of what you think you should be doing.  When you’re in a tizzy you’re not thinking, hearing or managing properly.  So take a chill pill and take a step back.  Once you do, you’ll be able to gauge your situation better.  Heck, it may even resolve without your involvement!

Remember, God wants us to be at a consistent state of peace.  When we are at unrest, something is wrong.  In many cases, it’s our perception that is wrong.  So, what’s really going on in that head of yours?  Fear?  Doubt?  Lack of belief?  Attack the situation at the root.  If your mind is under attack, attack back with scripture that reminds you of God’s love for you, His provision, His promises.  Here are some great ones.  If they don’t speak to you, try reading whole stories about characters like Ruth, Elijah, Paul or Jesus.

Romans 12:2-8 says:
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.

You don’t have to be everything, do everything or know everything.  That’s why we have The Savior.  To save us!  Being saved isn’t just about not going to hell.  It’s having a friend, confidante, helper who is always there no matter what.  So call on Him when you need Him!  Then rest knowing that He will answer when you call.  Don’t worry about your past mistakes or behaviors hindering your prayers, either.  That’s not the case.  You are TOTALLY and ETERNALLY FORGIVEN!  God can’t punish Christ for you on the Cross then turn around and punish you, too.  That would make Him a liar.  He’s not!  So move forward, no matter how small you feel your faith may be at the moment.  Look what a little faith can do:

Matthew 17:20                And He said to them, “Because of the littleness of your faith; for truly I say to you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible to you.

Luke 5:20                        Seeing their faith, He said, “Friend, your sins are forgiven you.”

Luke 22:32                      but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.”

Romans 3:28                  For we maintain that a man is justified by faith apart from works of the Law.

Romans 5:1                    Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,

Taking a step back is a major weapon when tackling the events of the day.  Instead of being caught up in minor details, it helps us to see the big picture and refocus on what is important.  Remember, we are not called to control everything, but believe and trust in The One that created, controls & knows everything.  He’s got it!  Take a break!