Monday Mom Tip(s)…Last big push before Christmas!

Hey everyone!  I don’t know about you, but this has been a whirlwind of a week!  It seems that everyone has planned a meeting, convention, talk, project, assignment or event this past week and put me on the invitation list.  It’s not a bad thing unless you lose one important thing-balance.  I had to make some decisions that some people didn’t like and some that shocked and amazed.  There are times to jump out of the boat and walk on water then there’s times to call on Jesus because you know it’s looking bad!  Anyway, I hope you have found that Jesus is our balance.  He answers every prayer & loves us dearly.  And if Jesus loves us that much, how much more love does the Father have if He sent Jesus just for us?  Well, I hope in all of the hustle and bustle you find your balance.  Or better yet, opt out of the drama completely.  Here are some options that’ll cut down on some stress:

Get enough sleep.  Sleepy leads to cranky and that’s when grumpy and snippy show up.

Ask for help (and take it) when you need it.  There’s no shame in being humble.  Just remember who is good for what!

Take small steps and small bites. Don’t get overwhelmed by overloading yourself.

Making lists and checking items off is a great way to stay organized.

SAY NO.  Then mean it!  Then act on the “NO”!  You don’t have to please everyone.

Book some time for yourself.  You know you need it sometimes.  Don’t feel bad.  Romans 8:1

Be appreciative and giving.

Take deep breaths.  Think.  Repeat the deep breaths.  Pray.  One more deep breath.  Go!

I hope these tips were helpful.  Find over 100 more in my book on parenting and keeping a happy, balanced home.  To get your copy by tomorrow, click the pic.  You’ll be taken directly to Amazon.com where you can see this and my other book.

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Have a great week and I’ll be back at the end of the month.  I’m taking a vacay myself and will fill you in on all the antics (or at least the ones that’ll maintain my good name! lol)

Until next time, try NOT to kill your kids before they turn 18!

 

The Holiday Hustle-How It Goes Down in Our House

Thanksgiving dinner11. Eleven. What’s the numerical significance? That’s how many people were coming to my house this Thanksgiving.  Well, that’s how many were supposed to be. Just when I went through the 5 stages of grief and decided to speak life over the situation, God opened the heavens and only 9 actually came.  Well, it’s complicated. There were 9 here, then 7 then 9 then 7 then 9 then 5.  Yeah, you don’t want to know…

Lord, help.

Ok, so anyway, on to Christmas.  Yes!!!  The BIG one!  We’ve got one tree up (the hubby won’t budge from us having a white tree since I had my way with green for a measly 12 years) and one to move and decorate.  He thought it was crazy to have more than one tree up, but I insisted it’s not crazy, it’s Southern!  Ok, I just like multiple trees with multiple motifs.  One day I’ll have my peacock themed tree-this I vow!

This time we’re a little ahead of the game (I think.  I hope.) with all of the decorations down and out, it looks like Christmas exploded in our hallway and living room.  But with everything out I can see what we have.  Then I put it away because too may things in my view distracts and overwhelms me (anyone else like that?) so that I can focus.  Then enters Pinterest…

Oh you temptress.  With your whimsical delights and promises of casseroles, perfect decor and gift ideas, you will be my undoing if I’m not careful.  However, I have a secret weapon…my daughter!  She’s always on board for a new craft and has the energy to carry it out.  So with glitter in one hand and hot glue in the other, we’re up for any crafting task at hand.

This week I’ve made her a Barbie Christmas tree, a coffee filter haute couture outfit and a bean bag chair which was converted into a lounge chair with attached pillows by my neice.  I must admit I had the most fun!

I found the BEST lady with the craziest fun ideas, too (like the working doll fireplace shown below)!  Maybe you’ve heard of her?  My Froggy Stuff.  Check out her videos & blog.  You can’t help being hooked!

Their other channel:  https://www.youtube.com/user/createsomethingfabfroggy craft fireplace

Ok, I’ve gotta go.  I’m hungry and tonight is chili night.  If you haven’t tried my chili recipe, check it out!  It’s so fast that dinner is on the table in less than 15 minutes!  No joke!

Until next time, take it easy and try NOT to kill your kids before they turn 18!

Tonya

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Monday Mom Tip!

Are your and your kids having a knock down drag out fight over what to wear?  Young Super Hero Standing on Laundry MachinesWell, pull your Mom card, because you’re about to use it.  With having 3 children, there’s a never-ending flow of laundry.  Correction tsunami!  I’ve actually pulled my back trying to do all of their laundry.  Yeah, folks at church thought my hubby was to blame, but no such luck.  So what did I do?  Nothing.  My husband was so upset about my back that he banned me from doing their laundry (YES!) and made them do all of it by themselves.  Yes, even the tiny one.

Let me give you a little history.  I’ve always taught my children to help with laundry as soon as they turn 2 or show the ability to fold.  So they’d help with folding washcloths, bring dirty clothes (that was a life lesson for them), put wet clothes into the dryer, etc.  Well, somewhere along the way they decided it wasn’t fun anymore.  So they’d do stuff like:

  • not put clean clothes away
  • put dirty clothes on top of their clean clothes in their hamper
  • throw clean clothes on the floor which eventually mixed with the dirty when they shoved them under or in something for room check

You know, all of the delightful things that make your loads of laundry double or triple for the week!  Oh, but it gets worse.  Not only that, but when the seasons changed (every 4 hours here in Greensboro) they would wear the most outlandish things!  25 degrees for the high and cleanthey’re wearing tank tops and ankle socks.  What the world?!  It went on for weeks until I’d had enough.  I took a day and went into the danger zone-their closets, under beds, in dressers, in toy boxes (yes, they stash stuff there, too).  I pulled out all clothing and washed it.  Side note:

*DO NOT EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER SMELL CLOTHES TO SEE IF THEY’RE CLEAN!*

scaredIT IS NOT WORTH THE MENTAL TRAUMA, TEARS OR SLEEPLESS NIGHTS.  YOU’VE BEEN WARNED!

Whew!  Ok, back to the steps.  Sort clothes:  wear now, store, donate & trash.  Now do what the pile dictates.  We have 2 storage rooms and a ton of space, so itlady woman mom laundry basket hamper chore‘s no problem putting items out of sight (especially with space bags).  Then I pull out stuff from storage for the current season and they think I went on a shopping spree for them while they were at school.  It’s a win-win because there are no more arguments about what to wear.  If someone asks where their such-and-such is, I tell them to go clean their room til they find it.  That brings silence or silence & a clean room.  Again, a win-win.

I had a former student ask me about why parents seem to care less when they get older.  Younger siblings get away with murder, she said.  I told her, “Baby, we are tired.  We overachieve on the first one, get more rational with the next child we have and ultimately leave the youngest one for God to handle”.  Lol!  I know that’s not how it works in every household, but I’ve heard it that way many times!

I hope this has helped you do some laundry, keep your sanity and get organized.  It helped me when we were in that stage.  Now we’re back to everyone doing their own dirty duds for the most part.  That little one is still in need of help from time to time, but 2 out of 3 ain’t bad!  Until next time, happy laundering!  LOL-that didn’t sound right!!

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